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Spiritual Abuse, Testing Leaders by Scripture, and Finding a Healthy Church
Series: NAR to Christ
Hosts: Dawn Hill with Dave Jenkins
Show Summary
If you are told you cannot ask questions, that is a red flag. In this episode we open Scripture to define
spiritual abuse, contrast domineering leadership with biblical shepherding, and lay out practical steps for
testing teaching, pursuing wise accountability, and finding a healthy local church with qualified elders.
We also discuss how to respond without vengeance and how to pray for those caught in deception with gospel hope.
Key Scriptures: 1 Peter 5:1–5; 1 Timothy 3; Titus 1; 1 John 4:1–3; Romans 12:9–21; Psalm 51; 1 Corinthians 11:1; Colossians 3:5–14; Philippians 1:6.
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Episode Notes
- Red flags: forbidding questions, demanding submission to titles, shutting down testing and fruit examination.
- Shepherding pattern: 1 Peter 5:1–5 teaches willing, eager, example-driven oversight rather than domination.
- Elder qualifications: 1 Timothy 3 and Titus 1 emphasize character over charisma and sound doctrine.
- Response: leave vengeance to God, pray for those deceived, seek wise counsel, pursue reconciliation where possible.
- Next steps if harmed: bring concerns to qualified elders, seek biblical counseling, do not isolate, plug into a sound local church.
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