Marriage Is a Picture of the Gospel (Ephesians 5:25–32)

Contending for the Word Q&A with Dave Jenkins

Show Summary

Marriage is not ultimately about personal fulfillment, cultural expression, or individual preference.
According to Scripture, marriage is a God-designed picture of the gospel itself. In this episode,
Dave Jenkins explains how marriage reflects Christ’s sacrificial love for the church, the church’s
loving devotion to Christ, and the covenant faithfulness of the gospel—rooted in Ephesians 5:25–32.

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Key Scriptures

• Ephesians 5:25–32

Episode Highlights

• Marriage is a God-designed portrait of Christ’s sacrificial love for the church and the church’s faithful response to Him.
• Husbands are called to display Christlike love—self-giving, serving, suffering, sanctifying, and remaining faithful.
• Wives are called to reflect the church’s loving devotion to Christ—marked by trust, respect, partnership, unity, and worshipful obedience.
• Marriage displays covenant love, not contract love—faithfulness before feelings and commitment before convenience.
• A gospel-shaped marriage becomes a witness to neighbors, a refuge for children, and a testimony in the church and the world.

Full Article

Over the last few days we’ve looked at why God created marriage, what biblical headship means, and what biblical submission looks like. Today we arrive at the heart of the matter: marriage is a picture of the gospel. This means your marriage is not ultimately about you it’s about Christ: His love, His covenant, His sacrifice, His redemption. Paul anchors this truth in Ephesians 5:25–32, where he explains that the mystery of marriage points to Christ and the church.

1) Marriage Reflects Christ’s Sacrificial Love

Paul says, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” Christ’s love is not self-centered—it is self-giving. He served, He suffered, He sanctified, He preserved, and He remained faithful. Marriage puts that kind of love on display in ordinary life, day after day.

2) Marriage Reflects the Church’s Loving Devotion to Christ

Wives are called to submit to their husbands “as to the Lord.” This reflects trust, respect, partnership, and unity mirroring the church’s joyful devotion to Christ. Biblical submission is not inferiority; it is worshipful imitation of the church’s love for her Savior.

3) Marriage Displays Covenant Love, Not Contract Love

The gospel is covenantal, not consumeristic. Christ does not say, “I will love you if you perform.” He says, “I will love you because I have chosen you.” Marriage mirrors covenant promise before performance faithfulness before feeling, commitment before convenience.

4) Marriage Points People to Christ

A gospel-shaped marriage becomes a testimony to neighbors, a refuge for children, a witness in the church, and a display of grace to the watching world. When husbands and wives forgive, persevere, and love sacrificially, marriage preaches a sermon every day about the gospel they believe. If your marriage is strong, give thanks and keep building. If your marriage is struggling, remember the gospel: Christ restores, renews, and redeems. If your marriage feels ordinary, remember this—there is no such thing as an

ordinary gospel picture.

Takeaways & Reflection Questions

• In what ways does your view of marriage need to shift from “about me” to “about Christ”?
• How can husbands pursue sacrificial love that reflects Christ more clearly this week?
• How can wives pursue joyful devotion that reflects the church’s love for Christ more clearly this week?
• Where is your marriage tempted toward “contract love” instead of covenant faithfulness?
• What would it look like for your home to more intentionally point others to Christ?

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