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Forgiveness and Humility in Marriage: A Biblical Answer
Author: Dave Jenkins
Show: Contending for the Word Q&A
Date: February 11, 2026
Show Summary
Marriage is one of God’s greatest gifts—and one of the greatest challenges—because two sinners, both redeemed by grace, are learning to love each other in a fallen world. That means forgiveness and humility are not occasional practices in marriage; they are daily necessities.
Today’s Question: How can husbands and wives practice forgiveness and humility in a way that honors Christ and builds unity rather than resentment?
Anchor Text: Colossians 3:12–13
Central Truth: Couples cultivate forgiveness and humility by remembering the gospel, confessing sin honestly, extending grace freely, and pursuing unity through love and repentance.
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Episode Notes
1) Forgiveness and humility begin with remembering the gospel
Everything starts here. We forgive because Christ has forgiven us. We humble ourselves because Christ humbled Himself for us. When we remember our own sin and our daily need for grace, it becomes easier to extend patience and mercy to our spouse. The gospel softens the heart.
2) Forgiveness and humility require honest confession
Humility says, “I was wrong. Will you forgive me?” Couples cultivate humility by naming sin clearly and specifically—without defending it, minimizing it, or shifting blame. Confession creates space for grace.
3) Forgiveness and humility flourish through quick grace, not slow bitterness
Ephesians 4:26 warns us not to let anger linger. This doesn’t mean every issue must be fully resolved immediately, but it does mean we refuse to let bitterness take root. Forgiveness in marriage means releasing the offense, refusing to keep score, and choosing restoration over resentment.
4) Forgiveness and humility are sustained by repentance and faith
True repentance looks like change—attitudes change, responses change, patterns are renewed, and tenderness grows. Humility shapes how we speak, listen, correct, and respond. Forgiveness reunites the heart; humility restores trust. Together, they cultivate unity.
Key Scriptures
- Colossians 3:12–13 — Put on compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, patience, and forgive as the Lord has forgiven you.
- Ephesians 4:26 — Do not let the sun go down on your anger.
Takeaways / Reflection Questions
- Where do I need to remember the gospel before I respond to my spouse?
- Do I confess sin clearly and specifically—or do I minimize and defend it?
- Have I allowed bitterness to take root through delayed forgiveness?
- What would repentance and faith look like in this conflict—practically and consistently?
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Friend, if your marriage feels strained or wounded right now, you are not without hope. Christ reconciles, Christ restores, and Christ heals. Bring your heart before the Lord today—ask Him for humility to confess and grace to forgive. Stand firm in the Word of God, cling to Christ, and may forgiveness and humility deepen your marriage.
