Posted On March 12, 2019

The Weakness and Strength of Being an Autistic Christian

by | Mar 12, 2019 | The Gospel and the Christian Life, Featured

Hi! My name is Daniel Michalski. I am a Christian. I am a Master of Divinity student at Westminster Seminary California. I love to travel. I’ve been to 22 countries on 4 continents! I like cats and goats (and more cats). I had five lizards growing up. My favorite color is green. I’m the opposite of a picky eater, the only food I don’t love is ketchup. I’m an ambivert, in between extrovert and introvert, so I get energy from either being alone or from socializing! Oh…and I’m on the Autism Spectrum.

Autism is an unusual way of processing information. It has strengths and weaknesses. The basic elements of autism are difficulty reading body language and non-verbal communication, impaired motor skills, difficulty with eye contact, unusually strong senses, difficulty with symbolic language and humor, ability to hyper-focus, and an excellent memory. Because the autistic brain focuses on certain areas such as memory, detail, routine, and precision, it is impaired in non-verbal and social areas. Non-Autistic people, those with typical nervous systems, are called Neurotypicals.

I didn’t grow up with a knowledge of my Autism. I grew up in the tiny town of Bonners Ferry, Idaho. A lot of my symptoms weren’t as evident because I spent most of my time with family, so we were comfortable with each other. Plus my little brother has Down’s Syndrome and Classic Autism. We only knew about his Down’s Syndrome, so we never connected the similar traits that he and I had. Even with some hurtful misunderstandings and our not knowing about my condition, my Mom was an excellent mother and didn’t harm me at all. Sadly, the same cannot be said for many Autistics who grew up in Christian or non-Christian homes. Many Autistics from Christian homes were abused and treated as disobedient and evil for their disability.

But I can remember certain events that might have made someone who was familiar with Autism notice me. I had a lizard at school and was going to have a funeral for him, but one of my classmates joked about the lizard, and I took him seriously. I made the whole class stay inside while I buried him behind the school. Also, many times people would speak to me, but I would be so focused on something that my brain was filtering them out completely. I was oblivious that having one friend at a time or teaching myself what a metaphor was via a literal definition wasn’t typical.

When I turned 18, I moved to California, got a grocery store job, and started wondering if I was a different species from everybody else. I felt like there was an invisible barrier between me and the world around me. I didn’t understand how people wanted to bond and thought someone trying to fist bump me was punching me. Because of confusing events like this, I retreated into my own mind. I almost stopped communicating altogether, and just bagged groceries while off in another dimension. I studied theology alone and traveled. Unbeknownst to me, a manager recognized me as Autistic and helped me throughout my time there. The general manager, who didn’t know about Asperger’s Syndrome but was a Christian, also helped me out.

When I was 21, my friend Robb Coleman, now a SEBTS Ph.D. student, suggested I might have Asperger’s Syndrome. I looked it up, and two things jumped out at me: I had no idea what non-verbal communication was, and I had forced myself to learn how to look people in the eye (it was physically painful). The condition’s description fit my life perfectly and explained many confusing things. I understood finally why I felt like a stranger in the world and couldn’t socialize well.

It explained why my gait was often described as odd or like a foreigner. It explained why I had trouble doing tasks requiring fine motor skills like driving, holding a pencil rather than grasping, and balancing a fork. It explained my sense of being an observer and not a participant in life. It explained why it hurt to look people in the eye and why I needed to run after too much sensory input. It explained why I had such sensitive hearing, and my nerves felt constantly overloaded.

But now I had another dimension to deal with. I was a Christian and committed to being part of the Church community. Being a Christian with Autism presents particular challenges.

One struggle is difficulty socializing. Most Autistics want to socialize but have severe troubles doing so. This is both because of hyper-stimulation from sensory input (every little thing around you putting pressure on you) and from difficulty with body language. A Church is a loud environment, and often Autistics will retreat from the fellowship halls or even the assembly because of the noise and sensory input being overwhelming. As one of my Autistic brothers puts it, “the general [Autistic] tendency towards isolation and doing things solo versus large, loud, obnoxious groups of people who want to hug and love each other and shout” makes Church difficult. This is compounded by the conviction that in spite of how difficult the trial God has called us as Christians to be part of this noisy group of fallen sinners. In a community of Christians, we are to live with one another and be involved in each other’s lives.

The Autistic Christian ought not to retreat from the Church and the Neurotypical Christian ought not to shun those who have trouble socializing. Sadly, I have seen both. I have seen and experienced being rejected, ostracized, and treated as if I don’t exist by Christians who seem to feel it is easier to ignore people who are different than embrace them. It’s discouraging and painful to have been treated as non-existent or rejected as a bad person even by pastors simply because I have difficulty with social skills and eye contact. I have seen Autistics who gave up on Church (or Christianity) because of difficulties with communication. Anyone will shrivel or die spiritually when not connected to Christ’s Church. Friends, this ought not to be so! We are one Body in Christ, and by working together, we can help each other.

Because of how Autistic people think, we face some serious dangers when it comes to Christianity. Because we tend to think in pictures rather than words, we want a concrete image for an idea. This can be dangerous when it comes to God and wanting a mental image of Him. Some Autistics end up collapsing the Creator/creature distinction. Others try to form a picture, for example by putting Him within space-time. As difficult as it is (and all people struggle to some degree with God’s otherness) the Autistic Christian must embrace mystery. We have to realize if we are to be orthodox that some thoughts we cannot form an image of; the God beyond space and time is also beyond comprehension or imagination.

A second danger is in having true faith. Because emotions are seldom involved in our thought process, and we think in strict, logical terms, it is easy for us to have mental assent without true faith. Such mental assent, because we believe what we think vigorously, may appear deep and heartfelt while only being acceptance of a list of propositions. But true faith is knowledge, assent, and trust. The Autistic Christian must understand the need to go beyond accepting bare data and rest in Christ as Creator, Lord, and Savior.

A third danger is in confusing mistreatment from Christians and personal pain from growing up in a confusing, overwhelming world with a reason to doubt God. Most Autistic atheists I have spoken with in-depth are atheists because they experienced pain and suffering, not because God is not rational or perceivable through the created realm. They make a hasty move from experienced pain to belief that he is not there, though that may often simply be anger at Him and not true unbelief. Two things that help Autistic Christians in this area are understanding all humans are fallen and trusting that God can use evil for His good purposes.

A fourth danger is from our brain’s emphasis on the visual to form ideas. Because we need sensory objects to form an idea, we can become imbalanced. The Sacraments as the visible gospel are vital to our spiritual life and often to grasping the Gospel itself. The danger for Protestant Autistics is struggling with the gospel if we do not have a weekly Eucharist. The danger for Orthodox and Catholic Autistics, because those Churches focus less on the preached Word, is to have the visible gospel without the clear, spoken Word of the gospel.

Because Autistic people express their ideas verbally and have trouble expressing their emotions, we can be taken wrongly. This is especially painful and difficult when it comes to empathy. The stronger I feel something, the harder it is to express. I feel empathy with my whole body and heart but have great trouble expressing it. For this reason, people often think we lack empathy (or other emotions) when we really are just bad at body language. This can result in a Church setting with people thinking we are spiritually immature or callous, making it difficult to be part of the community and difficult to express our care for others in a way that they would appreciate. I am still unsure if I adequately express my concern for others in a way that most people would understand.

I have had trouble with how I get to know people as an Autistic person and how boundaries are set. We tend to feel upon meeting someone that we fully know them and trust them. I feel like I know a person I just met at Church or on the street as well as someone I’ve known my whole life. Then, if trust is broken, it’s hard for me to trust the person at all. I don’t have natural categories for acquaintances, friends, best friends, and family members. It all feels the same. This can result in not understanding why others are reserved after a first meeting (I naturally assume distrust). It also leads Autistics to trust people we shouldn’t trust and be hurt. Sadly, there are predators and bullies in Churches as anywhere else in life. Being even more open at Church, we can fall prey to abusive people within the Church quite easily. Additionally, we feel comfortable speaking to anyone about any subject and don’t have a natural sense of how close someone is to us. This can result in unintentional breaking of trust or gossiping when the Autistic person isn’t sinning but simply not realizing certain things should only be said to certain people.

These are some main concerns and struggles for a Christian with Autism, though I could speak at much greater length. I experience the world differently, but ultimately we all do as humans. We all have strengths and weaknesses, and we can and should all work together as the Body of Christ. So, with compassion let us as Autistics and Neurotypicals build each other up and bear with one another in love. The Neurotypical Christian can help the Autistic feel more comfortable and to learn social skills, boundaries, and body language. The Autistic Christian can use their interests to grow the Body and show them the deep wonder of the ordinary world God made. In all our weaknesses, God uses our weakness for His glory!

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  1. Cheryl Smith

    I really appreciate your honesty . This information is extremely helpful as I have two friends with autism both who have been raised in a Christian home and are now professing atheists. After reading this article , I now understand more clearly and feel better equipped in communicating with them.

    Thank you !

    Cheryl Smith

    • Daniel Michalski

      Hi Cheryl,
      My pleasure. I’m glad it was helpful and pray your friends will listen. We are all broken, hurting people in a fallen world and it saddens me to see people close themselves to their Creator Who loves them. Praying.

  2. julie

    Thank you for sharing this! I have a dear friend whose grown son has Aspergers and this has helped me so much to understand him better when he’s with us after church. What a gift you’ve given me today!! Thank you, again! Would love to hear more from your perspective!

    • Daniel Michalski

      Hi Julie,
      My pleasure. It’s very encouraging to hear words like this. Feel free to share it with him and with others at your Church. I hope mutual understanding and growth together can come of it. God bless.

  3. Jeanette Berg

    Thank you for sharing this!

    • Daniel Michalski

      My pleasure. Have a great day!

  4. Susan Keam

    Thanks for sharing this – it’s very helpful and incredibly brave. I have friends and close family who are Aspergers, and I hope that being able to share this among my friends and acquaintances will help them to understand the courage of those on the spectrum as they face everyday life

    • Daniel Michalski

      Hi Susan,
      My pleasure. I hope and pray it gives understanding. Thank you for sharing it!

  5. Robin

    Hi, thank you for sharing this. I am also Autistic and a Christian and I sometimes feel as if I’m the only Autistic Christian in the world. I keep encountering the false belief that one can either be Autistic or a Christian but never both so I feel so alone. I’m the only Christian Autistic person I know of. I have been to several Churches and have yet to find even just one other Christian Autistic person.

    I also keep hearing the false teaching that if I had enough faith I wouldn’t be Autistic. This is very hurtful to hear, to say the least.

    So, because of these things I keep putting on an act. I just don’t mention my Autism and keep it to myself as it’s never helped to share it with anyone so far.

    Right now I’m not part of a Church not only because of the things above but because I’m also bisexual and genderfluid which is unacceptable to the local Churches around here. All the local Churches here practice complementarianism which as a feminist I’m fully against. My parents whom I live with for now don’t even know I’m bisexual or genderfluid or feminist as I keep on an act at all times. I never say my true thoughts or feelings to anyone. I just keep it all to myself.

    I feel so alone in the world.

    I hope one day to find more Christian Autistic people such as yourself either online or in real life.
    GOD bless you.

    • Daniel Michalski

      Hi Robin,
      I’m sorry to hear of your experiences. It is so hard to see people hurt by these things and many who blame God and leave him. Be assured the Christian faith does not teach neurological disorders or any other condition of mind or body is sinful. It’s spiritually abusive to tell someone who has Autism (or ADHD, Bipolar, etc.) that that’s sin, but sadly some strains of American Christianity have very strange beliefs and think the Christian life should be smooth and easy. God created all of us, we are all broken vessels, but God doesn’t patch the cracks He lets His light shine through the cracks. There are a number of Christian Autistics I know in several denominations. My friend Hugh Ross who runs Reasons to Believe, is Autistic. You can reach out to him too, he always likes to help other Autistic Christians. Also, feel free to follow me on Twitter. I’ll connect you with other Autistic Christians on there. God loves you and cares about you, friend. God bless.

  6. Ann Schmidt

    I appreciate your article re: Christians & autism. My son is 35 and on the spectrum. He was deeply spiritual as a child, and committed to Christ before he was 5. But as he grew he became more and more legalistic. He suffered from serious depression as a teen. He came out of one depression with a real gain in love for others. But he still struggles with “faith”. I think he is awesome but it’s so hard for him to feel a relationship with God. We are evangelical and I have suggested other churches that may be quieter and maybe more “intellectual?” However, change is difficult as well. He has a beautiful heart & spirit but I worry about his worry. Any suggestions or thoughts are appreciated.

  7. Christopher Mbakwe

    This is a fantastic article. I am a 28 year old Christ follower with Asperger’s. I grew up in the church and though had very negative experiences with socializing growing up, whenever I think about the love of Christ I feel at peace and nothing else seems to matter. I love what you said about “confusing mistreatment from Christians and personal pain from growing up in a confusing, overwhelming world with a reason to doubt God.” Well said. I have had to learn that the ability to connect with other church members is not a reflection of my usefulness to God. God can use me in other ways because his kingdom is big enough for me.

    The Bible says that His kingdom is not of this world, so just because churches want to create less than ideal social circles for autists doesn’t mean were rejected from the Christ. The more I study the Bible the more I realize that if I lean on my faith and let others know that’s how I carry myself, I feel less pressure to mask, repress, or pretend to be someone else.

    Thank you for this read!


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