Editor’s Note:

The purpose of this series is to help singles think through how to be single in the church, those who are married but don’t have kids to continue to pursue each other and those who are married to excel at parenting by the grace of God.

• Dr. Brian Cosby opened the series with a look at six ways his church connects the church and the home.
  
• Mike Boling helps us understand the proper balance between social media and parenting.
• Mathew Sims wrote about how families can rehearse the gospel.
• Matthew Fretwell wrote about how married couples can communicate with one another in a way that honors God.
  
• Dan Darling wrote about five mistakes parents make.
• Dan wrote about ten things nobody tells you about being a dad.
• Mike Boling wrote on how husbands are to love their wives.
• Dan wrote about how children can honor their parents.
• Dave wrote on six practical steps he’s learned on how to love and encourage his wife. 
• Mike Leake wrote on seven reasons husbands should pray for their wives.
• Crag Hurst wrote on how husbands can love their wives.
• Dave interviewed Greg Gibson, the lead editor of the men’s channel at the Council of Biblical Manhood and Womanhood on biblical manhood and ministry.
  
• Mathew Sims wrote on parenting with the promise.
• Matthew Fretwell wrote on 3 keys to a healthy marriage.
• Zach Kendrick shared four marriage lessons he learned from his grandmother.
• Dan wrote about how your family is not a problem to be solved.
• Brian hedges wrote on how to do family devotions.
• Dan wrote on five common mistakes parents make.
• Today Daniel Henderson shares forty powerful reasons to avoid pornography.

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This material was originally written by Daniel Henderson at – strategicrenewal.com and adapted by Dr. Dave Earley at Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary

Forty powerful reasons to avoid pornography

1. I enjoy the pleasure of a love relationship with God.
2. I fulfill my true identity as a child of God.
3. I experience God’s provision of empowering grace.
4. I enjoy my spiritual freedom to its fullest.
5. I avoid a life pattern of deception.
6. I cultivate a soft and sensitive conscience.
7. I turn away from the solicitation of harlots in my heart.
8. I refuse the temptation of idolatry.
9. I prove to be a faithful steward of my money.
10. I prove to be a faithful steward of my time.
11. I abstain from any promotion and support of the pornography industry.
12. I preserve God’s gift of loving sexual expression for its intended purpose.
13. I protect the purity and power of my God-given imagination.
14. I develop disciplined character.
15. I guard the integrity of my Christian testimony.
16. I promote health and harmony in the body of Christ.
17. I cultivate a stronger resistance to future interpersonal sexual sin.
18. I nurture the proper biblical view of the sanctity of womanhood.
19. I relate to women as equals and persons of ultimate worth.
20. I learn to live in reality rather than fantasy.
21. I steer clear of unnecessary personal guilt and shame.
22. I steer clear of unnecessary personal guilt and shame.
23. I cultivate a lifestyle of contentment and satisfaction.
24. I experience the blessing of living as a servant.
25. I learn the relational skills of authentic intimacy.
26. I avoid future mental, emotional, and spiritual scars on my life.
27. I experience the joy of the Christian life.
28. I learn to deal with the causes of my problems rather than treating symptoms.
29. I prevent potential temptations for others in my sphere of influence.
30. I honor the trust and prayer support of those who have invested in my spiritual life.

If I Am Married

31. I avoid adultery in my heart.
32. I encourage my wife’s trust.
33. I honor my vow of marital purity and faithfulness.
34. I keep my marriage union pure from fantasies of other women.
35. I communicate acceptance and honor toward my wife.
36. I avoid the pathway that could easily result in infidelity.

If I Have Children

37. I minimize the risk of my children being exposed to pornography.
38. I model strong and genuine moral values for my children.
39. I avoid embarrassing and embittering my children.
40. I encourage all of the above positive qualities in their lives.

Dave Jenkins( Executive Director )

Dave Jenkins is happily married to his wife, Sarah. He is a writer, editor, and speaker living in beautiful Southern Oregon. Dave is a lover of Christ, His people, the Church, and sound theology. He serves as the Executive Director of Servants of Grace Ministries, the Executive Editor of Theology for Life Magazine, the Host and Producer of Equipping You in Grace Podcast, and is a contributor to and producer of Contending for the Word. He is the author of The Word Explored: The Problem of Biblical Illiteracy and What To Do About It (House to House, 2021),  The Word Matters: Defending Biblical Authority Against the Spirit of the Age (G3 Press, 2022), and Contentment: The Journey of a Lifetime (Theology for Life, 2024). You can find him on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Youtube, or read his newsletter. Dave loves to spend time with his wife, going to movies, eating at a nice restaurant, or going out for a round of golf with a good friend. He is also a voracious reader, in particular of Reformed theology, and the Puritans. You will often find him when he’s not busy with ministry reading a pile of the latest books from a wide variety of Christian publishers. Dave received his M.A.R. and M.Div through Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary.