Letters To The Hearts Of Pastors’ Wives

Find Healing for Church Hurt

Driving home after Wednesday night church, I turned off the main highway onto the familiar tree-lined road that twisted and turned as it led to our subdivision. From the passenger seat, my fourteen-year-old daughter asked, “Mom, have you ever questioned why God chose...

Participating in the Life of the Church as a Pastor’s Wife

I’m from the South. I don’t know what it’s like where you live, but I grew up with the very idea of a pastor’s wife being freighted with expectations and assumptions. When my husband was in seminary in the South-- before we were married--I went to a “how to be a...

Five Ways that Susie Spurgeon Encouraged Her Husband

Faithful pastors are busy. However, occasionally God uniquely gifts a man for extraordinary work in ministry. That man cannot be fully imitated, but he can be learned from. Charles Spurgeon was such a man. Spurgeon authored 135 books, 63 volumes of sermons, and was...

Ministry Moves

“How have you coped with moving your children from one ministry situation to another?” I’ve been...

Raising the Pastors Kids

Raising the Pastors Kids

For almost a year, I’ve been taking my kids swimming after school once a week. No, I didn’t enroll them in lessons like a good suburban mom. I could barely justify adding the gym membership to our monthly expenses, much less private lessons for four kids. Instead, I...

When You’re the Loneliest Member of Your Church

When You’re the Loneliest Member of Your Church

I’m not very good at friendship. I used to be the kind of friend who was as comfortable listening as unloading, but fifteen years of being a pastor’s wife has muddled my ability to be the kind of friend I’d like to be. At twenty-four, I started out with wide eyes,...

The Bottom Line

The Bottom Line

In my childhood, it was always an exciting annual moment. On that cold December night, sitting in the sanctuary, surrounded by friends, enveloped by the warmth of a fire, a church elder would approach the podium and speak with authority: “We’d like to ask Pastor and...

Calming the Chaos of Sundays

Calming the Chaos of Sundays

Let’s be honest. Sundays are not a day of rest for a pastor’s wife. Just getting kids out the door looking presentable can be a monumental task. Then you have the job of overseeing them once you arrive at church while greeting people, having conversations with...

Four Truths to Hold on to When Your Pastor Husband is Discouraged

Four Truths to Hold on to When Your Pastor Husband is Discouraged

“Can you please pray for us right now? He’s so discouraged. I don’t know how to help him. I don’t know how much of this I can bear. For that matter, I don’t know how much of this he can bear.” My shoulders shook as I quietly sobbed in my laundry room. With the door...

Out of the Mud Pit

Out of the Mud Pit

When I met my husband, I knew the Lord was calling him to be a pastor. In my head, I envisioned us working side-by-side for the Lord, furthering His kingdom by building relationships with the kids, youth, and adults in our church together. While perhaps this may be...