After nearly a decade as a pastor’s wife, I have experienced the unique roller coaster ride that...
Letters To The Hearts Of Pastors’ Wives
The Pastor’s Wife and the Congregation
In the early years after my son’s autism diagnosis, I had to learn many lessons. I had wanted to...
Ministry Moves
“How have you coped with moving your children from one ministry situation to another?” I’ve been...
Raising the Pastors Kids
For almost a year, I’ve been taking my kids swimming after school once a week. No, I didn’t enroll them in lessons like a good suburban mom. I could barely justify adding the gym membership to our monthly expenses, much less private lessons for four kids. Instead, I...
When You’re the Loneliest Member of Your Church
I’m not very good at friendship. I used to be the kind of friend who was as comfortable listening as unloading, but fifteen years of being a pastor’s wife has muddled my ability to be the kind of friend I’d like to be. At twenty-four, I started out with wide eyes,...
The Bottom Line
In my childhood, it was always an exciting annual moment. On that cold December night, sitting in the sanctuary, surrounded by friends, enveloped by the warmth of a fire, a church elder would approach the podium and speak with authority: “We’d like to ask Pastor and...
Calming the Chaos of Sundays
Let’s be honest. Sundays are not a day of rest for a pastor’s wife. Just getting kids out the door looking presentable can be a monumental task. Then you have the job of overseeing them once you arrive at church while greeting people, having conversations with...
Four Truths to Hold on to When Your Pastor Husband is Discouraged
“Can you please pray for us right now? He’s so discouraged. I don’t know how to help him. I don’t know how much of this I can bear. For that matter, I don’t know how much of this he can bear.” My shoulders shook as I quietly sobbed in my laundry room. With the door...
Out of the Mud Pit
When I met my husband, I knew the Lord was calling him to be a pastor. In my head, I envisioned us working side-by-side for the Lord, furthering His kingdom by building relationships with the kids, youth, and adults in our church together. While perhaps this may be...
Boundaries: A Helpful Tool to Grow in Grace and Love Others with the Grace of God
Once again, my talkative upstairs neighbor accosted me. It was easier to let her inside and continue with what I was doing than to try to have a brief conversation in the hallway. I was cooking dinner and simultaneously nursing a baby. Our toddler was dropping raw...
Introduction to Pastors’ Wife Series
When I married my husband, I knew I was also marrying my pastor for life. While others might get to go “church shopping,” I was already committed to the church that would one day hire him. We chose Ruth’s famous promise to her mother-in-law as our wedding verse:...