Posted On July 31, 2019

Are You Having Godly Conversations or Participating in Meaningless Chatter?

by | Jul 31, 2019 | Featured, The Gospel and the Christian Life

Ladies, do I see opportunities with other women to catch up on the latest fashion trends, critiquing the contestants in the most recent singing or dancing contest on television, or do I gladly see them as opportunities to “teach what is good”?

Paul warned the Ephesians that “empty chatter could lead to further ungodliness” and we see him warning the women of Crete (and us) not to be slanderers…the antithesis of what is good. “Slanderer” is the same word used for the devil. Not good.

  1. So, what is good, you might ask?
  2. What’s in a good conversation?

Paul tells us specifically

Titus 2:3-5 (ESV), “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands.”

By God’s grace and the good news of Jesus Christ, we are called to use our conversations to benefit and give life to other women in the following areas:

  • Loving and submitting to our husbands.
  • Loving our children.
  • Self-control.
  • Purity.
  • Home life.
  • Kindness.

If we meditate on and practice what is good, we will want to share what is good, rather than participate in idle chatter or malicious gossip. Paul tells us there is a crucial reason for this.

Titus 2:5 (ESV), “That the word of God may not be reviled.”



The words we choose to speak when spending time with other women is ultimately for the glory of God and His Word; not in having picture-perfect families and homes that look like the cover of the latest popular home magazine.

Nor are our conversations to reflect the other extreme, of just talking to fill dead air space with meaningless conversations that might lead to sinful gossip or slander.

Ask Yourself These Questions

  1. Do my words bring the grace and life of the Gospel to my sisters-in-Christ (Philippians 1:29)?
  2. Am I intentional in my thoughts, making sure the words I speak (or post on social media) are appropriate for whatever the occasion is?
  3. Have I examined what I am treasuring in my heart before I speak heart to heart with another woman?

Ephesians 4:29 (ESV), “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”

Luke 6:45 (ESV), “The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.”

I am so grateful for the amazing, godly women who obeyed Scripture and poured these good things into my life through their example and godly conversations. I needed their help, their encouragement, their advice, their grace, wisdom, and love.

By the way, I still do!

I hope you can say you have been the recipient of a Titus 2 relationship. If not, don’t look back in defeat. Instead, look to the kindness of God! It’s not too late to begin now by becoming the woman that chooses conversations that are good…that are God-honoring!

Before long, you will find yourself speaking what is good, beautiful, commendable, honorable, and right to women for your Savior! While I know I fall woefully short, I am thankful for the Lord’s new mercies every morning. We have been given grace upon grace upon grace! Let’s open our mouths to teach what is good!

These thoughts remind me of an oldie but goody.

Take my life and let it be
Consecrated, Lord, to Thee
Take my lips,  that they may be
Filled with messages from Thee!
Take myself, that I may be
Ever, only, ALL for Thee.
Ever, only, ALL for Thee!

Frances R. Havergal

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