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The Spiritual Danger of Comparing Yourself to Others
By Dave Jenkins · Contending for the Word Q&A
Comparing yourself to others can change how you see a gift you once thanked God for. Someone else’s career advances, their ministry grows, or their family seems happier. Before long, you are measuring your life by theirs.
On this episode of Contending for the Word Q&A, Dave Jenkins opens John 21:18–22 to show how Jesus’ words to Peter help us face the envy and pride that comparison stirs up and receive what God has given us with gratitude.
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Jesus Calls Peter to Follow Him
The risen Jesus speaks about the death by which Peter would glorify God and tells him, “Follow me.” When Peter sees the disciple whom Jesus loved, he asks, “Lord, what about this man?” Jesus answers, “If it is my will that he remain until I come, what is that to you? You follow me!” (John 21:22).
Peter’s question can sound familiar when someone else receives an opportunity we wanted. God gives us different gifts, circumstances, and responsibilities. Christ calls us to trust his providence and be faithful with what he has entrusted to us.
How Comparison Feeds Envy and Pride
When someone seems to have more, envy makes their blessing feel like our loss. When someone seems to have less, pride turns what we have received into a reason to boast. Both temptations can lead us to measure God’s generosity by what he has given someone else.
When a friend gets the opportunity you wanted, bring your disappointment to the Lord in prayer. Thank him for his kindness to your friend, and tell your friend you’re glad for them.
Following Christ With Gratitude
If you belong to Christ, you are forgiven, justified, adopted into God’s family, and promised an eternal inheritance. Your security rests on his saving work. You can give thanks for the gifts God has given you and take the next faithful step in the responsibilities he has placed before you.
Dear Christian, the greatest gift God has given you is Christ himself. When you are tempted to measure your life by someone else’s, remember Jesus’ words to Peter, “You follow me!”
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