Posted On May 17, 2016

Husbands, when was the last time you stared into the face of a task that you thought you could tackle, only to find out it was basically impossible? It might have been when you confidently opened up the box hoping to assemble that new two-in-one double bike trailer and jogger for your child. Or when you tried to fold the fitted sheet for your wife. Maybe it was when you started taking the squirrel problem in your attic personally and set out to get rid of your pesky and persistent nemesis. What about when you came face to face with the reality that you, in and of yourself, are nowhere close to being the husband you are called to be?

My wife and I got married six months ago. I am a rookie . . . at the end of the bench. When my wife and I were walking through premarital counseling, we both had a real sense that our first year would have its challenges. How would we, with our different personalities, deal with conflict? How would we handle our finances? What would happen when a decision had to be made and we have different opinions? You can never be completely ready for a transition like this. But what was I the most unprepared for? Ephesians 5:25.

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”

Look to Christ, the Standard

These fifteen words sound the heartbeat of a husband’s ministry in marriage. They’re the vows we performed on our wedding day. “Husbands, love your wives.” It may not seem impossible at first. Your love for your wife may be demonstrated daily, communicated passionately, and felt deeply, even through the ups and downs of a maturing marriage. But did you see the standard we’re up against in this love? Read these words again.

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church.” We aren’t to love our wives as our fathers loved our mothers or in the way our culture defines “love.” We aren’t called to compare ourselves with our boys at the gym or with our coworkers. We certainly don’t take our cues from how husbands are depicted on cable television. Marriages like that aren’t all that impossible.

No, our example, illustration, and standard in loving our wives is Jesus’s love for his bride, the church. How does the weight of that benchpress sit on your chest? Do you feel the impossibility of that? It’s one thing to love our wives. It is an entirely different thing to love her like Christ loves us.

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