In every stage of life, there are lies Satan tries to impress upon our hearts. After all, He’s a master deceiver, and we, apart from walking with the Holy Spirit and remaining in the Word of God, are easily deceived. Here are eight lies I found many of my fellow college friends believing.
- Going to college is a must for everyone right out of high school. You might have grown up in college prep home where college attendance immediately after high school is expected of you. Just because you don’t fit into that mold doesn’t mean something is wrong or that you need to adjust your life to make it happen. Several of my college buds who dropped out said that they felt forced into a college and major they weren’t sure about. If this sounds like you, that’s okay, but don’t be passive. If delaying college for a year is a tough sell to your folks, then map out a 12-month plan that includes specific actions and goals. Remind them that changing majors can add an expensive year of tuition that might have been avoided given additional time to explore career choices. Find several people who work in careers that interest you and shadow them. Volunteering is another great way to gain experience and learn a trade.
- I do my best studying at 3 am. I may be a little biased on this one. While I do believe that some people do work better at night, it’s not a great plan to be up all night working studying. A few of you may be required to work the night shift for college income. I am not talking to you. No, I am speaking of college students locking themselves into a habit of attending class, taking a long afternoon nap, and then studying until 4 am. This does not prepare you for being an adult. This is generally not a healthy habit for life. Often, I found when this is the pattern in college, then lie #3 is the next step.
- Skipping church is no big deal– If you get off on a bad sleep/work pattern, then it is all too easy to find yourself sleeping in on Sunday morning. Christian friends, chapel at school (for those attending a Christian college) or even a Bible study does not replace the diverse body of believers that can be found in a church. It might be hard to find a church, especially if you liked the one you went to back home. Grab a friend or two and make it your pact by the end of the first semester you will find a church to go to on a regular basis. Going to church does not mean just showing up on Sundays but also investing. Consider volunteering to help in the nursery. Find a sweet couple in church and offer to babysit so they can have a date night. Get to know others in the church who are older or younger than you by participating in service opportunities as your schedule permits.
- You are too busy to be in the Word of God. Don’t let the fact that your routine is different now keep you from getting in the Word. Find the best time that works for you and ask someone to hold you accountable to do it. Maybe you meet with God over dinner or that extra few minutes before your calculus class. Spending time in Word and prayer is critical in this stage of life.
- You don’t need Christian friends at school, you have some at home. If you go to secular university, you may feel like there is no way you could find Christians there. It is vital to your walk with the Lord that you have like-minded believers who are walking with you. Some of them might be found at church. Your school may have a campus ministry — start going, maybe you will find that friend.
- If you start a Bible study- no one will want to come. I was surprised to hear this from some friends who went to secular universities. They felt like it wasn’t worth the effort since no one would come. Don’t think you are alone. There are other Christians on campus as hungry for the Word as you are. Don’t let your doubts get the best of you. Even if one person shows up- investing the Word together can be so encouraging in hard times.
- You should make friends with people like you. College will be a place where people will interact with all different backgrounds and upbringings. You can learn a lot about yourself by getting to know people of a different culture or color than you. College gives you a unique opportunity to do so in a way that may never be present again. These friendships will enrich your walk with Christ and cause you to grow in ways you cannot imagine.
- Going/calling home isn’t important– Disclaimer: I know some people go to college to escape horrible situations- I am not talking to you. Take it from me; the time at home is precious. We don’t know how much more time our parents or siblings have on this side of heaven. Being away can be good for the relationship sometimes. But never forget to call them, write them and come home when you can. Loving your family like that looks a lot like Christ.
This, of course, isn’t an exhaustive list. What lies do you believe college women encounter?