Category: Theology For Life

The Real Victims of Pornography

When it comes to the topic of pornography and the Church, our default is to point to the man. We are inundated with statistics that reveal just how prevalent pornography is among men in and out of the Church. We have all seen them — the outrageous percentages that somehow find a way to shock us every time. Our counseling and restoration processes are intensely focused on getting men in honest community and accountability relationships, where they can not only express their struggles, but be welcomed into a place where they can begin to heal and change. A quick...

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Counseling Pornography Addicts

Pornography is not usually about sex. Sexual addiction is often a symptom of a deeper heart issue, and while we must correct behaviors and habits, if we never get below the surface in our counseling we will not ultimately be helpful. To help a sex addict, we must understand what heart motivations drive them towards sexual sin. It is, of course, never easy to get to the heart of someone’s problem, to uncover their motivations. There’s no formula, but good questions can help us unpack such motivations. We should ask questions about the nature of their sin: what do...

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Pornography & Temptation: Getting to the Heart

“Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world.” (1 John 2:15-26) The problem of pornography in our culture isn’t a new thing. Access to this ungodliness has surely changed, but the underlining issues have always been the same. Sexual desire, by means of the internet, magazines, and movies has always been there;...

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From Pew Sitter to Abolitionist Sex Trafficking and the Church

Pornography and sex-trafficking have gained a foothold of normalcy in the United States. Don’t believe it? Advertisements for sex with minors are now posted on several mainstream online ad companies. The activity is indeed illegal. But the right to advertise it, according to a majority of state and now federal courts, is not. Few news agencies reported these recent rulings. Last year Amnesty International called for the decriminalization of prostitution. Did the Church join the conversation? Did they even know about it? Then consider this excerpt from the book, The Pimp Game, An Instructional Guide by Mickey Royal, currently...

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Confronting the Evils of Sex Trafficking

As the author of When Your Husband is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart, and as one whose first husband was ensnared by the evil web of pornography, I became heartbreakingly aware that porn fuels the demand for sex-trafficking. The continued demand by men to buy women is fed by internet pornography. With that knowledge, I felt compelled to get involved with Tiny Hands International, an organization who intercepts girls who are about to be trafficked from Nepal into the sex-trade in India. Because sex-trafficking is a relatively “hidden” crime, accurate data is hard to come by. Nonetheless,...

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