Category: Navigating Relationships

Forgiveness and Confrontation with Spouse

Luke 7:36-50 Before my wife and I started dating, we sat down with one another to discuss our motives in dating. I wanted to find someone I’d wind up marrying. Earlier in my college years, I tried to date, but I concluded that dating had my heart more than my devotion to the Lord. I decided to put off dating until I graduated college. All throughout college, my focus was on preparing for seminary and leading college guys through the Bible. When my wife and I had our discussion about dating, we laid a lot of our sin out....

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Working Through Marital Issues

Men are called five times in the English version of Ephesians 5:22-33 to love their wives. The reason men can love our wives Paul says is because of Christ. Christ bled, died, and rose so His people could be empowered by the Holy Spirit to make much of Jesus. One of the harder aspects of marital life is working through marital issues and challenges. You may have grown up in a home like me where there was a lot of fighting. You saw first-hand how hurtful words hurt and linger for a long time. Or perhaps you saw physical,...

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Resolving Conflict in Your Marriage with Grace and Truth

Some married couples never deal with their issues and leave conflict hanging there as if it will magically go away on its own. I know this because I saw it in my parent’s marriage. Issues were left unresolved which resulted in more fights about other issues. Soon everything becomes a fight—a hill worth dying on. As Christians, we are called to do better than this by God’s grace. After all, we’ve been transferred from the kingdom of Satan to the Kingdom of the Lord Jesus. Jesus has taken our hearts of stone and given us a new heart, with...

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Marriage Requires Sanctification

When my wife and I first got together over ten years ago, I thought that given how well things we’re going that married life would be a breeze. I should have known better given the marital difficulties I saw in my parents’ marriage and in that of others I knew. What I failed to realize then, but now do, was how much marriage is about my sanctification. Being married, I’ve learned it isn’t about me pointing my finger at my wife and saying, “Look how you need to change” in XYZ area of your life. Instead, marriage is about...

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We Need Community

We went to Alaska a few years ago to visit relatives. Our cousins asked what we wanted to do during our visit. I immediately piped up, “Hiking!” They talked about a few nearby trails, casually mentioning a recent bear attack. “A bear attack?” I asked in a raised high-pitched voice. “Never mind, we don’t need to go hiking…” One of the cousins responded, “We’ll be fine. The person who was attacked was out by herself. We’ll be safe because we are together.” Created for Community Do you ever think that life would be easier if we could do it...

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