Category: Marriage/Parenting/Singleness

Your Family Is Not a Problem to Be Solved

In a symposium published by The Guardian, novelist Richard Ford was asked to deliver his best advice to aspiring writers. Forgive me for quibbling with the wisdom of a celebrated muse, but I was offended by his first two pieces of advice: First, marry somebody you love and who thinks you being a writer is a good idea; and second, don’t have children. In Ford’s view, marriage is only useful insomuch as it furthers personal aims, while children are optional nuisances to be avoided, if possible. Marriage is merely instrumental instead of aspirational. I’m not sure if Ford’s advice...

Read More

How We Do Family Worship

I’m a big believer in family worship. God has clearly called parents to teach their children the ways of God intentionally. But for some, the idea of family worship is a bit scary. Either they don’t know how to do it, or they think it means three hours every night of exegetical study through Leviticus. Family worship doesn’t have to be scary or boring or a drudgery, it can be simple. Here are five ways we do it: 1) Around the Table. Sometimes we do it at dinner, other times we do it at breakfast (especially if I’m home...

Read More

Five Hard Truths for Parents

I hesitate to write a parenting article, only because I’m not an expert, just a father trying his best to parent the way God wants me to. Our kids are still young, so there is no “finished product” to evaluate to see if what I’m saying even makes sense. So when you read the following, take those above caveats in mind. Parenting involves hard truths. It is a way that God searches your heart, humbles you, and softens you for His service. I’ve learned five hard truths about being parent, that I’d like to share with you: 1) There...

Read More

Connecting the Church and Family

We believe that God has created the church and the family as complimentary institutions—designed to function together and support one another. The church I pastor (Wayside Presbyterian Church) has a desire to be a multigenerational, family supporting, family integrated church—where parents are being affirmed, equipped, and encouraged to fulfill their God-given privilege and responsibility of bringing up their children in the nurture and instruction of the Lord (Eph. 6:4). We want to reach the next generation everyday in homes, not just once a week in church. Whether they realize it or not, children’s directors and youth ministers have been...

Read More

Marriage/Parenting/Singleness Recap

Over the months of September and October, we have posted many articles here at Servants of Grace as part of a series titled “Marriage/Parenting.” The goal of this series has been to help those who are married but don’t have kids to continue to pursue each other and those who are married to excel at parenting by the grace of God. Marriage and parenting is hard work. The gospel provides the foundation for a healthy marriage. As we conclude this series, I encourage you to look to Jesus– He is all that you need. The writers in this series...

Read More