Real people and their stories matter. Young Christian adults are facing a rapidly changing world where everything they know is being flipped upside down every day as they encounter pressure from their peers to abandon the Christian faith. In addition to this peer-pressure many young Christian adults feel as if the Church has failed to help them to live “in but not of the world”. In You Lost Me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving Church And Rethinking Faith David Kinnaman makes the case from statistics he gathered from studying young adults since 2003, and examining Scripture that the Church needs to improve in how it equips young adults to live Christian lives.
You Lost Me takes a comphrensive look at nearly every facet of young adult’s lives from their perceptions of how the Church views science, is repressive, exclusive, and doesn’t allow doubt and more. The book doesn’t stop at just giving statistical evidence but moves into telling the stories of young men and women whose stories really matter. Unlike many books that are research oriented You Lost Me is written in such a way as to help the local church in its mission of making disciples of young adults.
The one concern that I have about this book is that the author takes an ecumenical approach to his research by arguing “whether we come from a Catholic, evangelical, mainline, or Orthodox tradition, we need to help the next generation of Christ-followers deal well with cultural accommodation; we need to help them live in-but-not-of lives (Kinnaman, 15). The one thing that would have strengthened this book would have been a discussion on how young adults view the Gospel and how to help them live Gospel-centered lives within the context of the local church.
You Lost Me seeks to examine the next generation’s cultural context by asking the question, “How can we follow Jesus-and help young people faithfully follow Jesus-in a dramatically different culture?” Even with the concern over the ecumenical approach of the author You Lost Me is a very helpful book that will help Pastors to understand how to better minister and equip young adults to walk with God in all of life. The author is spot on that the church has traditionally not done a good job at helping creative types (artists, writers, etc) and those scientifically oriented to walk with God in areas they feel called too.
The one thing I appreciated the most about You Lost Me is the emphasize on not only “how” we can rectify the problem but the author examining through the lens of nomads, prodigals and exiles what each group thinks about the Church. Many young adults are leaving the Church because they have been hurt by the Church or they have had a bad experience and no longer see the relevancy of the Gospel for their lives. As sad as many of these stories are the Church should not give up nor should it compromise. The Gospel is the power of God to transform people’s lives by transferring them from the kingdom of darkness to the kingdom of the Lord Jesus Christ.
Reading books like You Lost Me always interest me. I love learning more about how to reach people with the Gospel. Overall reading You Lost Me has been very educational and given me a lot to think about especially when I talk to young adults. I recommend every Christian read You Lost Me but especially Pastors and ministry leaders in order to get a better handle on what young adults think about the church.
The faith journeys of the next generation are a challenge to the established Church, but they can also be a source of hope for the Church. I encourage you to read You Lost Me in order to be equipped to think through how to reach young adults. I believe as you read this book you will be challenged, convicted and also encouraged as you read the real stories of young adults and how to reach them. Read You Lost Me, for in doing so you will be better equipped to minister the Gospel to the young adults around you.
Author: David Kinnaman
Publisher: Baker Books (2011)
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